Thursday, February 4, 2010

16 Months Waiting...

Yep, still waiting...
So for the good news, it looks like we will be okayed to expand our age range, which hubby and I are really excited about. After all these months of waiting and all the learning and research we've done, we've really felt led to go older. I'm really hoping for a referral on the older end. That being said, we could still end up with a baby, and we would be overjoyed no matter what!
For the bad news, I have absolutely no idea how much longer we'll be waiting. Not a clue.

For all those of you that didn't know, Child #2 had an assessment on Monday. It took almost a year to get the appointment, so it was met with a bit of expectation. The doctor spent about two hours with us going through all sorts of questions and exams. Basically, he's a year or a year and a half delayed in a few areas (like fine motor, gross motor, some cognitive). She said he fits all 17 points for Combined Type ADHD. She also said he has something else that I have totally forgotten the label for, but it's a delay thing that we can recheck later. First, we're going to try medication and see if that improves some of the other stuff. I have very mixed feelings about this. I honestly used to think ADHD was just a label that school administrators put on hyper boys so they could medicate them and make them easier in class. I do not generally agree with medicating young children, but I also have to admit that my son is NOT normal (not that any of us are normal...). He is impulsive, disruptive, fidgety, unmotivated and has the attention span of a gnat. That seems kind of harsh now that I read it. I'm at the point where I am willing to try it, if it will change his behavior, make him able to learn, and stay focused on tasks like cleaning, dressing, etc. I'll let you know what I think of it next month, or possibly sooner. We'll see.

4 comments:

Cindy said...

I am wishing you all the very best as you start this new protocol with your son.

Anonymous said...

Hang in there with the ADHD stuff. If your child had epilepsy, you would make sure he had medicine. ADHD medicine is very much the same idea. Make sure to work with your doctor to find the correct medicine and dosage for him. Also, keep the positive talk up for his self-esteem. They can turn their frustration inward on themselves if we don't help them along.

Anonymous said...

Its frustrating waiting for something, but this will give you extra time to work out some finer details with the other children. Not that you won't have different challenges later, but...we are working with today for now.
When I come visit, everything will be wonderful, right? Grandma's here!!
Date night!

Anonymous said...

My best friends daughter is 10 and they just started her on meds. They wish they would have done it sooner. Even the daughter admits how much happier she is on the meds. She is able to focus and stay calm. It is not for everyone but if your heart tells you it is the right thing it is.

All the best...Lyn-Dee P (peaksite blog)

BTW - We adopted a 3 year old and it was the best decision we ever made. He has been home for 14 months and is AMAZING (yeah...very happy mommy speaking here).